Demi Lovato is making a major comeback after a powerful and emotional performance at the Grammys, and in many ways seems stronger and more confident than ever. Perhaps that is because she has been making a real effort to find herself despite the severe toxicity that today’s entertainment industry can produce.
In particular — Lovato has been open about her exploration of her own sexuality, and the place that she currently finds herself within that realm.
Lovato, who will perform the national anthem at the Super Bowl this Sunday, was a guest on Andy Cohen’s SiriusXM show Thursday and discussed at length, what she considers to be her “coming out” story. In 2017, Lovato made the brave decision to tell her parents that she was attracted to both sexes. Lovato’s dad was apparently unfazed, recalling key things that tipped him off, even in Lovato’s music.
“My dad was like, ‘Yeah, obviously,’” Lovato said.
“Got a taste for the cherry / I just need to take a bite / Don’t tell your mother / Kiss one another,” lyrics from her song “Cool For the Summer” served as a pretty big hint. Although the 27-year-old singer was highly concerned about her mother’s reaction to the news, she was happily surprised at the response. Her mother emphasized that she only wanted her daughter to be “happy.”
“It was actually emotional but really beautiful. After everything was done, I was like shaking and crying,” Lovato remembers.
Lovato has been rumored in the past to have dated a DJ who identifies as a lesbian, Lauren “KITTENS” Abedini — and has been spotted kissing one of her female backup dancers.
Lovato admitted that she was truly still “figuring it out” in terms of her sexuality, and has not subscribed to any particular label as of yet. She also revealed that she could see herself ending up with a partner of either gender — or simply living life on her own.
“I don’t know what my future looks like,” she told Cohen.
“I don’t know if I’m going to have kids this year or in 10 years. I don’t know if I’m gonna do it with a partner or without, ’cause women, we don’t need partners.”
Lovato’s ability to “go with the flow” is inspiring to her own generation, as well as those that will follow. Sexual and gender fluidity is slowly but surely becoming more of an acknowledged way of life going into 2020, and Lovato is a prime example that THAT’S OKAY.
Lovato has chosen to defy any stereotypes or mental parameters that can easily hinder out ability as humans to stay open to love — of all shapes and sizes.
Sexuality may very well be a spectrum. We all land somewhere between being attracted to men or women. Many of us are far to one side, others are far on the other side — and some are right smack in the middle, but we shouldn’t feel any obligation to define where we may land. That spectrum could shift. “Choosing a side” so to speak, is how we’ve been conditioned to behave, but enlightened artists such as Lovato are squashing that standard.
And it’s awesome.